In memoriam

ljpI haven’t been feeling well lately.  I’ve been dealing with a nasty headache off and on all week, and I was supposed to have surgery yesterday.  Thanks to my insurance company dropping the ball, I was forced to reschedule at the last minute.  I’ve had a dozen ideas for posts, but I haven’t gotten any of them written (although I did start one – I think it was on Monday).

Since I didn’t have to work today, I thought I’d take a little nap and see if it helped.  I was hoping it would.  I was wrong.  I’ve still got the headache, and now it’s worse than ever.  When I woke up, I awoke to the news that my friend and fellow author, Lindsey J. Parsons, had passed away.  Needless to say, I was devastated, even though I was never lucky enough to meet her in person.

lindseyI first met Lindsey on the writing site authonomy, where she and I were both members of the Alliance of Worldbuilders.  Our little critique group has had plenty of ups and downs since 2010, but through it all, Lindsey was always a positive force in the group.  She was a great author, a talented artist, and wonderful friend.  Her death has left us all reeling, and she will be greatly missed by all who knew her.

Rest in peace, Lindsey, wherever you are.  Our thoughts are with you and your family.

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31 thoughts on “In memoriam

  1. Sophie E Tallis says:

    Can’t quite pull my thoughts together or form words yet, or stop crying…crying seems to be my new thing. Lindsey was a great friend to me and us all. I was lucky enough to speak to her nearly every day and we were going to go to America together this year…I miss my friend so terribly. But you are spot on…she was the kindest most positive person and the beating dragonheart of our little Alliance. Rest in peace Lindsey. xxxxxxx 😦

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        • Kay Kauffman says:

          I wish I knew, Soph. I think that’s why the sudden tragedies like this are the worst – there’s no time to prepare. At least when my parents died, I had a little bit of time to adjust to the thought of being without them (although I’m not sure you ever really adjust to a thought like that, and my dad went much faster than my mom). If you need to talk, just let me know – I’m about six hours behind you here, so your middle of the night is my evening. *hugs*

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          • Elaine Jeremiah says:

            You’ve obviously had more than your fair share of grief to deal with, Kay. I’m so sorry to hear that your parents are dead – that’s awful. You’re so young to have had that happen to you. I hope you have a supportive family in your life who can help you deal with what your’e going through. I often wonder what I’d do without my parents. I’m especially close to my mum. I’ll keep you in my prayers.

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          • Kay Kauffman says:

            Thanks. It’s hard to believe my mom has been gone for 20 years. She had cancer. My dad had a seizure disorder and during a seizure (in the hospital, no less), he aspirated some soup and couldn’t shake the resulting lung trouble (too many years spent smoking like a chimney). It’s weird not having parents to talk to about stuff, but I do have an excellent set of in-laws, and my husband and kids are fantastic.

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          • Sophie E Tallis says:

            You’re so right. I’ve had people I love die, but there has always been a warning, a small period where you can brace yourself for what is to come. But when something as sudden and senseless as this happens, it just leaves you reeling and utterly bereft. I’m so sorry about parents, that is just dreadful, made even worse having kids too as they lose that precious connection to the older generation, to all the life experience , love and knowledge that they could share with them.

            I guess, we just have to be thankful for the time we have with those we love. Certainly, I’m so glad that I knew Lindsey and could call her my friend, and I think it’s a real testament to her kindness and caring nature, that so people are grieving her loss from all over the world. We were just damn lucky to have had her as our lovely dragon friend. Take care of yourself, Kay, and thank you honey, I think I may well be taking you up on your offer for late night chats! Love Soph xxxxxx

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          • Kay Kauffman says:

            Yes. I am so thankful that I’ve gotten to know everyone in the Alliance, and that we have each other to lean on in times like this. We were so lucky to have known Lindsey – Andrea put it right when she called her one of our original bright lights.

            Just let me know how you prefer to chat (Skype, Facebook, Google Hangouts, etc.) and I’m all yours if needed!

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          • Sophie E Tallis says:

            Thank you sweetie, FB messaging is usually best for me, but like I said, because sleep has been SO difficult, I’ve been trying not to take my laptop upstairs so force me to try and sleep! Dear dear..! But yes, you’re so right about Lindsey, we just have to be thankful I guess that we knew her and she was our friend. 🙂

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          • Kay Kauffman says:

            That’s probably a good idea. But in case you’re up, I’ll leave my FB up so you can reach me if needed. 😉

            Are you going to make it to the funeral? I wish I could go.

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          • Sophie E Tallis says:

            Awww…thank you sweetie!

            Yes, I think Will is picking me up as I’ve only just started driving again and to be honest, I think I’d be too upset to drive very well. I Andrea is going with Sam, and hopefully Hazel may be able to go with me and Will too. But I think we’re all going to try to meet up first, which will be nice. You’ll be there too honey, in spirit. I know you’d go to if you could…just too much water between us! 😉 Thank you though honey, you’ve been SUCH a sweetie! xxxx

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    • Kay Kauffman says:

      Thanks, Elaine. I’m just so shocked. I think sudden deaths must be the worst because there’s no warning, no chance to prepare yourself. Like Sophie (see above), I keep wanting to message her over some silly thing or other, and then I remember she won’t answer and it’s awful all over again.

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  2. Roger says:

    What terrible news. I am so sad.
    Lindsey and I have corresponded a lot over the years. I hope she rests well.
    And I also hope your problem with the insurance is resolved soon. My thoughts will be with you.

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    • Kay Kauffman says:

      We were all stunned to hear the news. Sudden deaths are the worst.

      And thanks. Got my operation rescheduled for Monday, which kinda sucks cuz I’ll miss most of next week, but it needs doing. Stupid ovaries.

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