I feel lucky

dandyAll kids drive their parents crazy, some more than others. Take Thumper, for instance. He’s my baby, the youngest of my four children, and the reason I can’t have nice things. He’s the reason I started sprouting gray hair before I hit thirty, the reason I’m sick of my own name, and the probable cause for any alcoholism his daycare teachers may suffer from.

But you know what? He’s perfect. He may be stubborn to a fault and have more energy than any one person should ever have, but he’s also the happiest four-year-old I’ve ever met. He has such a good heart, even when he’s feeling ornery, and he’s so stinkin’ adorable that I can never stay mad at him for long. I am lucky to be his mother.

For the record, I am lucky to be mother (and stepmother) to three other pretty fantastic kids, too. But I feel especially lucky to be Thumper’s mother, because I almost wasn’t, a fact I was reminded of last night.

We’ve been having an epic JAG marathon the last couple of months and we started season 6 last week. Tonight we watched S6E6, “The Princess and the Petty Officer,” which I really enjoyed, for the most part. Oh, sure, I thought the admiral’s girlfriend was completely daft (if ever a woman had her head buried in the sand, it was Dr. Sydney Walden) and her son really quite creepy (Don’t worry, McGee, I still love you!), but I enjoyed the echoes of The Princess and the Marine, which I have no doubt influenced this particular episode.

Anyway, it was a great episode, right up until the end. I knew something bad was coming (SPOILER ALERT, despite the fact that you’ve had fifteen years to watch it) because I’d made the mistake of looking at the back of the DVD case, but I was unprepared for how it would affect me. When Bud broke down crying over his daughter’s death, I cried right along with him, because that could have been me. It almost was. Thanks to a moment of carelessness by my doctor, Thumper aspirated some fluid and stopped breathing mere moments after birth. It took a team of nurses to get him breathing again, but in the end, they did.

Well, them and Thumper’s mile-wide stubborn streak.

But for the longest two minutes of my life, I didn’t know whether my son would make it. I was strapped to an operating table, unable to see much through the horde of nurses surrounding Thumper after they called a code pink. What I did see scared the hell out of me – his skin had a bluish tint to it. When the anesthesiologist started comforting us, Seymour went into panic mode. He grabbed hold of a pole to steady himself (whether it was my IV pole or the one holding up the surgical curtain, I no longer remember), and he was shaking so hard it caused the pole to shake, too. He had a better view than I did; his show of nerves scared me all the more.

Later, when I watched Thumper’s birth video, I saw how bad it really was. He hadn’t just turned blue. He was purple. He looked like a seven-pound plum. And I will never be able to watch that video ever again.

I cannot imagine life without my crazy, sweet little boy. He drives me up the wall and out of my mind, but I know that someday, those same qualities – that same stubbornness and energy and curiosity – will serve him well. And if he keeps his good heart? Well, the world could use more people like that.

wpid-20141223_200429.jpgI feel lucky because my son is alive. All of my children are, and I love them all so very, very much. I can’t imagine not hearing their little voices or their sweet, innocent laughter. I can’t imagine not feeling their little arms wrap themselves around my neck or their spiky hair tickling my chin as they shower me with sticky kisses. I can’t imagine not seeing them every day (or most days)  and not knowing that some part of me will live on in them, no matter what.

Occasionally I ponder what life would be like without them and, sure, I’d have more time to myself, but I think I would be the poorer for it. My children bring joy to my life. I’ve done things I never would have done if not for my children (like going on the funnel ride at Lost Island Water Park). And someday, when they’re grown up and gone and busy with their own children, I know I’ll look back on this time and smile.

After all, with any luck, my grandchildren will be just like their parents. 😉

Do you have children? If so, what about them makes you feel especially lucky?

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6 thoughts on “I feel lucky

    • Kay Kauffman says:

      Amen! I’d have been terrified if Thumper had had seizures. Thank goodness he didn’t! Still, leaving him in the hospital when I was discharged is the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

      What was your youngest sick with?


  1. laurie27wsmith says:

    I think your kids are lucky to have such a great mum Kay. When my son was born he looked perfect, then after a couple of months we realised he had hip problems. Turned out he had no hip sockets, 7 operations and 3 years later he could walk. Then at 12 all of his teeth twisted. His bowel knotted up at 13 and we nearly lost him and then he developed Schumann’s Disease. His spine twisted. His spine was then fused and rods inserted, then it became infected. I took him back to the hospital for tests on the clear fluid that was leaking out of the drain in his back. They refused to do anything. I said well, you’d better call the police now because by the time they get here this office and those in it will be history. They checked him out and admitted him straight away, removed the rods and then put him on a drip feed of three different antibiotics. These were shunted through his heart for a quicker access into the body. They sent him home because he was probably a threat to other patients. It was touch and go for over a month. He had a nurse come visit every day and at 17 looked 80. He’s 41 now and lives in London, UK, as far away as he can from home. He is in constant pain and has difficulty breathing. He won’t come home so there’s not a lot I can do for him. So make the most of Thumper and Co.


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