When I’m nervous…

darcyMy fabulous friend Charnele tagged me last week to share a little about some of my nervous tics.  I don’t think I have a whole lot of nervous habits, but there are a few that spring immediately to mind:

  1. I clam up.  I’m shy by nature and have a hard time initiating conversations with people I don’t know well (and occasionally with those I do know well).
  2. I fidget.  I play with my hands, my wedding ring, or my hair.  I adjust my clothes.  I cross my arms.  You get the picture.
  3. I chew my cheeks or lips.  I do this instead of clenching my jaw, but sometimes that happens, too.
  4. Hot flashes…I have them.  I have them even when I’m not nervous, but they seem to hit especially hard when I’m nervous about something.
  5. I sweat.  It’s an extension of the hot flashes, but one I’m rather self-conscious about.

What about you?  Do you do anything in particular when you’re nervous?

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20 thoughts on “When I’m nervous…

  1. Mara Eastern says:

    I’m like you. I’m painfully shy and awfully nervous for no apparent reason. I pull my hair when talking to strangers and I often twirl my hair, which, apparently, men’s magazines interpret as a sign of the woman’s sexual interest in her conversation partner. They couldn’t be more wrong.


    • Kay Kauffman says:

      Yep, that’s me to a T. Apparently I was much more forward as a toddler, but I guess school robbed me of some of that. My grandpa could walk up to a complete stranger and strike up a conversation as if they had known each other for 20 years. I don’t have that ability, but I really wish I did.


  2. trentpmcd says:

    Yes, pretty much what you said. Also, “I repeat myself when under stress, I repeat myself when under stress, I repeat myself when under stress” (from King Crimson’s “Indiscipline”). It’s true, but usually it’s random words and I don’t realize I’m doing it until I say the random word a few times. Luckily it rarely happens when other people are around.


    • Kay Kauffman says:

      I stutter a bit when I’m really nervous. I never used to, but then I dated a stutterer, and apparently it rubbed off a little.

      Then again, I seem to do it even when I’m not nervous. I think sometimes my brain works faster than my mouth. I know my brain works faster than my fingers – it’s not uncommon for me to read through a couple pages of a story and find a word or two missing because my brain convinced my eyes that my fingers had written it down when, in fact, they hadn’t. 🙂


    • Kay Kauffman says:

      No, it’s not! But lucky for us, there’s the internet. It’s slightly less intimidating talking to people on Facebook and Twitter (or Authonomy, or other niche sites) than it is in real life. Of course, it’s simultaneously more nerve-wracking for me because I always worry about whether or not what I type correctly conveys the tone I’m aiming for because it’s so hard to read tone.

      Maybe that’s why God made booze. 😛


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